Cancer can be a gift

I was writing an advice column for the longest time but I wanted to do something a little bit different for this post. I would like to write about a personal experience for a change and I hope that you enjoy this story that I am about to share with you.

You may or may not agree with my point of view but I would like to share it with you just the same.

I went through a bought of breast cancer 4 years ago at the age of 37. It was something that I always feared going through and it had become a reality. I had a really hard time of it, the surgery, chemo and radiation were all hard to go through and there were days that I wasn't sure how I would make it through the treatments. Its alot harder than you think it is. I was very lucky though because I had excellent doctors and I had the support of family and friends all through the journey. I also came across some excellent organizations both through the hospital and outside the hospital.

I leaned many things though the journey. I still fear a recurrence of cancer and pray to never have to go through it again in my lifetime.

There are some things that I did take away from the experience: Don't take anyone or anything for granted- life is precious and you never know when you will be faced with a traumatic event. You do find out who your true friends are when you go through an experience such as cancer. Some people can't handle you going through cancer and don't know how to treat you. You are usually better off without these kind of people in your life.

I have also gained a few things out of the experience: I have learned that I would love to be able to take a course in counseling and help others going through cancer as I know how much it means to have someone from outside your inner circle that understands all the fears and concerns. I have also become closer to my family and friends. One of the best things that I gained out of the experience was that I finally met someone special in my life. I was afraid if I met someone that never went through cancer, they wouldn't understand my fears and concerns and all the side effects from the treatments and all. I was lucky enough find a dating site for people that have been through or are going through cancer. I met someone almost 3 years ago and we became engaged last year. I never knew that out of such a horrible experience as cancer something good could come out of it.

In closing , I would like to share the link for the dating website for people that have had cancer or are going through cancer because love will find you when you least expect it: cisforcupid.com